Discover 4 common emotional wounds and helpful ways to heal

Discover 4 common emotional wounds and helpful ways to heal

We all experience problems and emotional wounds throughout our lives. Pain and struggle is a part of life because in order to stand up, we must also know what feeling down is like.

Life has so many hardships such as demise, heartbreak, depression, illness, rejection, abandonment, betrayal and other agonies. Sometimes we just can’t help but feel miserable because we feel so weak in dealing with these kinds of emotional wounds.

These emotional wounds or pain are not physical but can greatly affect our mental health and soon after our physical health too.

common emotional wounds

1: REJECTION

 2: BETRAYAL

 3: HUMILIATION

 4: ABANDONMENT

Rejection

The first emotional wound that we’ll talk about is rejection.

I’ve definitely had my fair share of rejections. For example, finding a job. Having my job application be rejected over and over again can be frustrating. It somehow made me feel unhappy and discouraged. Luckily, I have an amazing support system around me. Building a support system around yourself is key. You also have to realize that while you may be getting rejected from one thing, try not to let it affect your self-esteem and truly believe in yourself. You’re meant for great things.

Rejection can be defined as the act of pushing someone or something away. One may experience rejection from one’s family of origin, a friend, or a romantic partner, and the resulting emotions can often be painful. In the field of mental health care, rejection most frequently refers to the feelings of shame, sadness, or grief people feel when they are not accepted by others.

HEALING REJECTION

Best crystal: Agate Blue Lace

If you want to overcome fear of rejection, Agate Blue Lace is the ideal crystal to use. This healing stone will bring soft calming energy and peace of mind to you.

Additional benefits of Agate Blue Lace:

• Lowers body temperatures (during a fever)
• Eliminates blockages of the nervous system
• Supports healing of capillaries and pancreas

Best essential oil: doTERRA Peace 

doTERRA Peace is a beautiful blend of calming essential oils like Vetiver, Lavender, Ylang Ylang, Frankincense, and Clary Sage. It helps promote feelings of reassurance and contentment while counteracting anxious and fearful emotions.

OVERCOMING REJECTION

If you experienced rejection and distress you can handle it by doing these four things:

1. Realize and acknowledge that rejection is a common experience. You’re not the only one who is experiencing this. Learn to accept that it’s really normal to feel pain and distress.
2. Talk to someone whom you trust. Express your pains verbally and that other person merely by just listening can help you ease the bad feelings. Leaning on a trusted family member or friend provides natural pain relief.
3. Avoid being upset for so long and don’t self-blame. You need to be resilient and move forward. Rejection is a part of life.
4. You can keep busy on doing physical activities like sports or workouts. Don’t do this as an avoidance but more of an outlet to heal.

Betrayal

Second on our list of common emotional wounds is betrayal. Betrayal is one of the most painful human experiences. When you’re betrayed, you feel infuriated towards that person who deceived you. That then leads to feelings of loneliness and affects self-love and acceptance.

Trust and betrayal go hand in hand. We trust people around u, especially the ones we love and by doing so we give them the chance to do things like intimate betrayal.

Intimate betrayal—abuse, infidelity, deceit, financial manipulation—fractures the ability to trust anyone who gets close to us, including friends, relatives, even children. Yet the human need to trust persists, creating an internal storm of wanting to trust while being terrified of it.

Know yourself first. Follow your instincts. Become wiser and know a person well first before trusting them but sometimes it’s our human nature to trust easily. Find ways on how to overcome angry and anxious feelings caused by betrayal. Don’t allow one betrayal to affect your future relationships.

HEALING BETRAYAL

Best crystal: Rhodochrosite

To help you stimulate love and passion for yourself and heal the feeling of betrayal, use Rhodochrosite Crystal.

Rhodochrosite is a stone that integrates physical and spiritual energies, stimulating love and passion while energizing the soul.  It opens the heart, lifting depression and encouraging a positive and cheerful outlook.  Also, it improves self-worth and soothes emotional stress.  Rhodochrosite encourages a positive attitude, creativity and innovation, and enhances dream states.

More benefits of Rhodochrosite:

• Helps balance blood pressure and regulates heartbeat
• Improve circulatory and reproductive systems
• Helps restore poor eyesight.
• Bring relief to migraines, skin disorders, thyroid imbalances and intestinal problems.

Best essential oil: doTERRA Forgive 

You can help let go of unfettered anger with doTerra Forgive Renewing blend. Be ready to forget betrayal and resentment, move forward, be positive and love yourself more. To use it simply add one to two drops with doTerra Fractionated Coconut oil then apply to your temples, wrists or back of the neck. You can also use one to two drops of it and add it to your diffuser. Don’t forget that forgiveness is key because that will allow you to heal yourself instead of holding in the bitterness and hostility. Just because you forgive someone doesn’t mean you have to continue your relationship with them.

OVERCOMING BETRAYAL

You can overcome betrayal gradually through doing these:

1. Yes you were betrayed and wronged but please resist the desire of seeking revenge. With deep betrayal cases, you may experience an overwhelming wish to retaliate. Performing revenge will most likely lengthen the pain experience and in the end hurt you more.
2. Don’t feel punished by resentment. Avoid delaying your healing process by overthinking about the person who hurt you. Think about it, acknowledge it, forgive it, and heal. Don’t carry bad feelings of betrayal and anger for long. It can eventually lead to physical hurt if kept emotionally inside for too long.
3. Go on a break or take time to be physically away from the person who deceived you. Avoid stalking them on social media and messaging him/her until your anger dissipates and you can talk openly. If the betrayal situation is worse then it may be necessary to immediately break ties with that person.
4. Share your feelings with a trusted confidante. It’s necessary to talk to someone who is able to remain entirely neutral about the situation and can wholeheartedly listen to you and give honest advice.
5. If you want to save the relationship with that person, then have a heart to heart conversation when you’re both of you have healed enough to be ready to listen, understand and forgive.

Humiliation

Humiliation is the third emotional wound that we commonly encounter.

The Latin root of “humiliation” is “humus”, which means “earth” or “dirt”. It involves abasement of honour and dignity and, with that, loss of status and standing. This kind of emotional wound is something that is brought upon us by others.

Experiencing strong or excessive humiliation can lead to distress, anxiety, nightmares, insomnia, cynicism, self-isolation, apathy, low self-esteem, depression and even worse suicide. Read on to learn how to heal humiliation.

Please remember that if you are feeling or experiencing suicidal thoughts call your nearest help line and seek professional help.

HEALING HUMILIATION

Best crystal: Aegirine Black

This crystal is useful in getting your integrity back after experiencing negative troubles such as humiliation.

Aegirine Black can help you to face your karma with confidence and integrity. It also protects against psychic and mental attack, promotes sincerity, integrity and self-esteem. Turns negative thoughts to positive. Also helps you to set your goals from your heart.

More benefits of Aegirine Black:

• Maintains healthy immune and nervous systems
• Improve metabolic function of the body
• Supports cellular memory
• Relieves muscle pains
• Helps reduce body toxins

Best essential oil: doTERRA Motivate

If you haven’t used this powerful blend by doTerra, try it now. It’s the perfect Monday morning get me going kinda oil – or while in quarantine, just an everyday thing ?. The Motivate encouraging blend is a perfect blend of citrus and mint oils like Peppermint, Clementine, Basil, Melissa and more. It helps promotes feelings of self-confidence, courage, and belief. Besides, it also counteracts negative emotions of doubt, pessimism, and suspicion. This blend can assist with bringing back your integrity and be further motivated and excited about your life.

OVERCOMING HUMILIATION

Here are possible ways on how you can overcome humiliation.

1. Find the courage to get up again and learn from experience.
2. Stay positive, make yourself productive and do things that you enjoy. It can be through exercising, yoga, playing a sport, painting, cooking or other activities.
3. Seek out support system through your loved ones or friends. Talking to them on a regular basis will create good moments that can help you feel motivated towards starting over again.
4. Accept the fact that humiliation is sometimes inevitable. Most people experience it at different times in their life. You are not alone.
5. Don’t isolate yourself. Be ready for new opportunities in your life.
6. Move forward, slowly forgive and forget your own shameful experiences and plan for brighter days.

Abandonment

The fourth type of emotional wound – abandonment.

Abandonment issues arise when an individual has a strong fear of losing loved ones. A fear of abandonment is a form of anxiety. It often begins in childhood when a child experiences a traumatic loss. Although it is less common, abandonment issues can also sometimes begin in adulthood. Read more regarding abandonment signs and symptoms here.

HEALING ABANDONMENT

Best crystal: Apophyllite

The stone of truth. Calms & grounds the soul. Overcomes anxiety, worries & fears. Releases suppressed emotions. Abandons pretense & breaks down reserves. Assists Reiki healing by taking the healer out of the way so that the healing energy is purer.

More benefits of Apophyllite:

• Maintains healthy respiratory system
• Helps soul come to terms with the physical body
• Refreshes the eyes

Best essential oil: doTERRA Balance

If you’re experiencing fear of abandonment then you must grab a bottle of this powerful grounding blend. It provides whole body relaxation, while promoting feelings of balance and tranquility. Moreover, it’s the ideal blend for people who want to lessen stress, ease anxious feelings, and create a calm environment.

OVERCOMING ABANDONMENT

Here are some tips on how you can overcome the mental state of abandonment.

1. 1. Learn to take good care of yourself. If you depend too much on other people to take care of you, then you will really feel abandonment anxiety. Remember, your emotional wellness is your own responsibility. Nobody will look after yourself like you can.
   2. Never feel doubtful of yourself. Have faith and confidence in yourself and in your talents. Also, don’t be afraid to be left behind because you can support your own. Most people who suffer from fear of abandonment are highly dependent on validation of other people to make them feel confident. Stop your approval seeking attitude. Indeed, it’s hard but in the end you only need your own approval.
   3. Furthermore, when it comes to romantic relationship. Don’t be absolutely obsessed with another person that you want them to satisfy and live only for you. When someone feels pressured doing such forceful things it may lead to serious relationship problems and they might even leave you. It’s a fact that fear of abandonment and love goes hand in hand.
   4. You must be responsible about your own happiness. Thus, do things that you like such as traveling, working out, cycling, baking or other activities. To fight fear of abandonment you have to constantly find rooms for improvement. You need to invest in yourself and purposely create the life you aspire to have.
   5. You must be authentic and true to yourself. In order to have peaceful and meaningful relationship with other people you need to love yourself first. Moreover, accept that you have personal flaws and it doesn’t mean that special people will abandon you because of those imperfections.

These are the 4 common emotional wounds that we typically face.

General Advice

To learn more about the top 10 essential oils for emotions just read here.  These oils can be purchased as bottles or as roll-ons where you can apply them directly to where you need. Contact me here if you have some questions about essential oils and crystals.

Finally here’s my general advice. In spite of all the emotional pain you’re going through right now; Definitely don’t ever give up and always do your best to enjoy life. You can try using the above healing crystals, essential oils, and talk to someone who’s close to you or not – maybe your partner, family member or friend – sometimes it’s easier to share things with a total stranger. Do what you need to do to help heal yourself. Sharing your emotions will be very helpful to promote health and mental wellness.  If emotional wounds really keep you depressed and not functional for a very long period of time, it’s best to consult a Doctor.

Happy healing,

Zarine